Let’s face it–girls think about boys. They dream of marriage, raising a family, finding that “prince charming”, candle-lit dinners and moon-lit walks with that special someone…but as Christian girls, we know that it’s not always as easy finding “true love” as it is in fairytales. We live in a real world full of creeps as well as prince charmings. And sometimes even Prince Charming can be the wrong guy. So how do you know when you’ve met the right one?
A lot of women I know have made lists, or critera, that a potential “prince” would have to meet. And most Christian women that have shared about these lists have the same thing as their top priority–he must be a believer. Then their lists have a million and one other critera: “Likes kids, enjoys baseball, will eat anything I cook, wants to travel, etc. etc. etc.” But then I always wonder, “So what if a great guy, loves God, and is crazy about you comes along, but he doesn’t like baseball?” Okay, so I’m exaggerating a little bit, but my point is this: we spend our whole lives making plans and lists that we think should make up our futures. But do you really think that God is going to look at that list of qualities that you want in a man and say, “Okay, let me go get him for you.”?
God knows what is right for us. He knows when and how and who, and no matter what we say and do, we can’t influence that. If God wants you to get married, He has the man picked out for you. And girls, it’s sad to think about it, but that man may not particularly enjoy North and South or Pride and Prejudice. Just letting you know. 
So what is our role as Christian girls in finding the right man? I believe that there is only one criteria that we really need to have. And my criteria is a question. When I’m old, and if any “prince” takes an interest in me, I have one question for him–”Who has control over your life?” If he answers right, then I’ll ask God for wisdom to know if he is the one.
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I’ve had friends in the past who nearly obssesed in making lists for their ideal guy, their ideal wedding…I’ve seen what these lists can do to a girl…they can fill her head with dreams and wishes that they turn into obsessions and draw them away from thinking about God. They replace them with God, and I don’t want that to happen to me…which is why I try NOT to make plans for my own wedding. I mean, yeah, I have made comments like, “I definitely don’t want alot of bridesmaids.” or “I would like to wear Memere’s wedding dress.” or even “I would like to carry a bouquet of lilies of the valley.”
BUT! I know there’s the possibility that my husband-to-be will want alot of groomsmen, so I’ll have to have alot of bridesmaids. Or my Memere’s wedding dress won’t fit me. Or my husband-to-be is allergic to lilies of the valley.
And really, if that’s the case, then it doesn’t matter! I can and would give those things up readily! I don’t want my wedding to be a “GIRL’S CHOICES ONLY”. I want my husband to help make all the decisions. And seriously, I’ve seen some girls who say, “I am going to do my wedding this way whether my fiance likes it or not!” Eesh!
And there’s also the possibility that I may never marry! What happens if I make all those lists and dream and wish and hope, then I never marry. I’d have wasted all my time doing all that…I would’ve been laying the road for BIG disappointment!
lol. Long rambly post, I know. Sorry! What I’m getting at is, I totally agree with you, which is why I don’t like making those lists myself!
Good post Livi! Thanks!!!
Good post Liv!!!